So, you feel that life has you cornered you on all fronts. Your work, life, relationships, and physical health are at an all-time slump. You want to shake it off, but you don’t know where to start. Hope feels distant and out of reach.
One word of advice – do not worry about it since this “feeling” is familiar to everyone. People will always be due to their bad days, but the real test of character can rise above it. Everyone deserves to be the best version of themselves, including yourself. You’ll just have to give yourself a push and go forward, even if it is hard.
With that being said, read on below to help get you started on the seven habits you can perform to improve your life.
Listening to yourself enables you to live with more well-being, especially if you combine listening to yourself with listening to others. Listening to your body keeps you physically healthy. — Susan Heitler Ph.D.
Prioritize Your Wants And Needs
We’re often distracted by the allure of instant gratification instead of our long-term goals. While it is healthy to have distractions at times so that you can refocus, having too many wants and needs in high frequency, can make you lose sight or side-track you from your goals. Differentiate fleeting happiness from enduring satisfaction, and you have to make conscious decisions as you build towards your goals. Do it in order of priority.
If you do not feel like doing something, you will surely find a way to rationalize not doing it. Take responsibility for your commitments and see them through. Excuses lead to procrastination and further you from the goal that you want to achieve. Own your decisions and push yourself – it may be difficult if you’ve become used to making excuses, but each step can lead you to a better, more disciplined self. Just push on every single time, and you will make it.
Take Things In Stride
There will be times when you might be subject to adverse comments and criticisms that will poke at your self-esteem. Know, however, that these are usually unmerited to put you down and is more a reflection of the commenter than yourself. Learn to take things in stride and rise above the toxic comments. It will be difficult because we are sensitive, and comments of others may hold weight on us, but you have to let it go. Stay focused on your goal and your development. You don’t have to please everyone. Please yourself and your creator – that’s what you have to do.
In an industrialized society, it’s easy to forget the powerful healing that nature can offer. — Andra Brosh, PhD
Exercise can release endorphins that will make you happy and relieve stress. It also lets you clear your mind, making it sharper to tackle obstacles you find worrisome before. Remember that physical wellness promotes mental wellness as well, and you will make better decisions in the long run.
Summon some courage and throw yourself into something you’ve always wanted to do. Putting in the work will instill you with the willpower to keep going. Filter out negativity from detractors as they will be prone to criticize negatively – usually, these kinds of detractors are those afraid to take risks themselves, contenting themselves in safe choices.
A moment’s success is often built atop a mountain of failures. Any successful person will not criticize you for failing, for getting out of the mindset of making safe choices.
In a way it’s about reframing perfectionism, and getting life as perfect as it can be overall. — Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D.