Work-life balance is slowly falling out of fashion and “work-life blending,” or integration of work and life, is starting to gain popularity. — Tchiki Davis, Ph.D.
The norms have changed a lot over the years when it comes to the roles of every member of the family. If women were only supposed to serve their husband and take care of the children, they can now have a career and earn money on their own. If the main man of the house wants to work from home, no one can accuse him of being lazy.
Nevertheless, moms and dads may find it challenging to juggle work and family at times. Both aspects of life are quite demanding, to be honest. Considering you cannot find the right balance between them, here are a few pieces of advice to you.
Clear Simple Things Before Morning Comes
The first idea to remember is that you have a limited amount of time in the morning. You are ideally a married individual with children; that’s why you won’t be the only person to get ready at home. The little ones need help dressing up; everyone has to have breakfast before going out too.
To prevent feeling rushed when you wake up, it is advisable to prepare what your family members need before bedtime. For instance, pack their lunches and put them in the fridge at night. Ask the kids to choose their clothes too so that they merely have to put them on in the morning. You should also prepare the ingredients for your breakfast early to speed up the process of cooking stuff later.
Free times cannot always be available when you are a working parent. You may not be there whenever your kids need you to help them with a project or watch their performances. To avoid making them feel unloved, though, you have to make sure that your downtimes are only spent with kids.
It entails that the entire time you are off duty, you look after the children. Say, prepare their breakfast and lunch, go on a trip, or even drive them to school. This way, they know how special they are in your eyes.
If your kids are a bit older, a night of cooking can serve just the right amount of adventure. — Wendy Rice Psy.D.
Get Rid Of Exhausting Yet Unnecessary Activities
Since you are already busy, you should learn to pick the activities that you’ll focus on during the day. Some projects that are worthy of your efforts, you see, while others should be taken for granted.
The reason why you ought to let go of exhausting yet unnecessary tasks is that they will drain the energy and time that you should be devoting to your family. You don’t want the kids to accuse you of having no time for them because of that. Hence, before accepting any job, you should take a step back and think if you genuinely need to do it.
Find Shortcuts For Tasks
Now that the internet is accessible for many, some things can be bought or done online. Meaning to say, you can perform a few errands without leaving the house. E.g., buying groceries, shopping for clothes, et cetera. Thus, you have more time to spend with the family.
Avoid Looking For Perfection
Nothing is perfect in life. If you keep your perfectionistic views, it may be harder to put your family and work in a state of equilibrium. Just allow events to take place, and do not worry if some unpretty situations come up along the way.
Try to be open to what your child has to say and refrain from dismissing their thoughts, feelings, and experiences.— Shainna Ali Ph.D., LMHC
Schedule Physical Activities
Doing workouts or any sport that catches your interest can take off the stress that being in the office gives you. It will be nice to allot a particular portion of the day for that. You may decide to do it with or without your children.
Forego Electronic Gadgets
Turn off your smartphone, tablet or computer for several hours during the day. It helps you keep your calmness and sanity, especially if you want to steer away from work for a bit.
You can never go wrong with meditation. This kind of practice lets you clear your mind, body, and soul so that you will be able to focus on more tasks with a positive outlook.
Manage Daily Life
Keep track of the activities you often do and think of which of those things you can minimize or completely stop doing. This way, your concentration to career and family will not be divided even further.
Stop Feeling Neglectful
It is not productive to maintain that guilt feeling merely because you cannot be with your kids 24/7. Instead, you should strive to be the best parent in your little ways.
Search For Quietude
When things are getting tough, remember that you don’t have to act as if you are still okay. You may talk to your spouse and explain how you are feeling. In case your children are old enough to understand your words, you should ask them to tone down the noises they make since you don’t feel well. With all the work you deal with either at home or in the office, you deserve at least an hour of peace every single day.
Finding a balance between work and family is not as difficult as some people may think. You don’t need to choose what’s more important between the two; that’s as ridiculous as the question of who you love more between your mom and dad. Follow the tips above to ensure that you’re on the right path.