To attain a happy marriage, couples must fortify the value of unity, protecting it at all costs.
Prioritize Your Marriage Always
Above anything else, keep your marriage on top of your list of things to give attention to for the entire week or month. Don’t just give whatever is left of your time to your union. When scheduling your following weeks, dedicate a sufficient amount of time to your partner. Then, start figuring out how to add nonobligatory things like shopping, volunteering, or whatever optional activities.
Stop saying that you cannot provide ample time for your marriage; if you can commit to work, friends, parents, hobbies, and the internet, you certainly can set aside a portion of your valuable time for it – to the person whom you’ve committed yourself to marriage. Unless you make your matrimony to the top of your priorities list, your marriage will never mature.
Save Your Marriage: Clock-In Regularly
Take it from the biggest, most successful businesses – what do they possess to keep their employees productive, happy, and interested in their jobs? They keep tabs on each other by holding regular meetings that, aside from work agenda, focus mainly on member concerns and dilly-dallies. Being in a union, consider yourself fortunate that you don’t have to listen to discussions of sales and whatnot boringly.
Even when arguments and conflicts go unresolved, when a partner feels understood, they are still pacified and calmed. — Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D.
Marriage tactics to help maintain a flowing conversation:
- First, do some appreciation lines. Finding something to compliment about your partner or your marriage is easy if you’ll just look harder.
- Provide new information; for example, finding out that there’s a modern restaurant nearby that you haven’t tried.
- If you notice that your partner’s in a bad mood, don’t hesitate to ask. Frustrations of the day are such good conversation openers.
- End conversations with hopeful ideations like going on a trip to the beach on one of the weekends.
Practice these clock-in strategies to strengthen trust and communication in the relationship.
Contemplate Decisions Based On How It Will Affect Your Marriage Relationship
Always keep in mind that every decision you make will affect not only you but also your better half. Encountering bumps should leave couples questioning whether it is good for them or not, continually considering if the consequences can be good or bad for the future of their marriage. Sometimes, the answer dawns on you in the most inopportune times; but, that’s when you’ll know intuitively if your decisions will create stress, slash away precious time, or threaten the foundation of your marriage.
You can help yourself gain the courage to be more daring by nurturing relationships that encourage you to pursue your interests. These relationships can then function as secure bases that support you in your explorations. — LESLIE BECKER-PHELPS, PHD
Set Acceptable But Uncrossable Marital Boundaries
Friends and extended family members must not be given full access to your marriage. There should be a partly impenetrable boundary that separates your marriage from the rest of the world, preventing any interference with your marriage plans and desires. Because sometimes, instead of helping, concerned individuals make things more complicated during the marriage. But this does not mean that you have to shut them out entirely. Setting boundaries are just there to send a message to other necessary people in your life that there are lines that they cannot just cross. After all, you will need them as your support system in case you or your marriage encounters a rocky terrain.
Save Your Marriage
Learn to Focus On Marriage Survival
Surviving struggles within a marital relationship are not rocket science, but marriage needs practice and investing yourself solely to make things work.
Let marriage counseling be your last step in resolving a problematic area in your union. For now, find a way around your hardships by making sure that you strengthen your union first, above anything else. Your marriage will flow smoothly afterward.