One of the challenges that parents may face someday is realizing that their well-loved child has grown up to become an independent individual. This usually brings many changes in the family such as when the said son or daughter decides to move to another city or state. A child may also move to another country for college or career, which means that having long distance relationships among family members can happen.
Though the physical demands of parenting ease up once our kids grow into mature adults, research shows that our children continue to affect our lives and happiness even when they are well out of the nest. — LESLIE BECKER-PHELPS, PHD
As a parent, you need to take note that this situation is inevitable. There is nothing that you can do to prevent your child from leaving home. Sooner or later, he will leave the family home for some personal reasons. What you need to do instead is to support his decision and make sure that you stay by his side no matter what happens. Here are some of the things you can do to maintain a healthy long-distance relationship with your beloved child:
- Get Updates From Social Media
The availability of the Internet has helped a lot of people to connect with one another. Several websites are created to help promote efficient communication online. Make sure to take advantage of this by checking your child’s social media channels on a regular basis.
A simple gesture of commenting on his latest post or liking a social media update can already do a lot of things for both of you. Such act can send a signal to your child that you are thinking of him. It is also an excellent way to find out what is new in his life.
Technology can also bridge the miles between us and our children. Whether we are away on business or vacation (without the kids), we can easily ask them about their day or better yet tuck them in at night, all thanks to video conferencing. — Raychelle Cassada Lohmann Ph.D., LPCS
- Always Make A Phone Call
Even if Skype, Facebook, and other applications are available to bridge the distance between parents and children, nothing beats making an actual phone call. This act is more personal and special. Nowadays, it is so easy and affordable to call family members. In fact, you may not need to pay fees for long distance calls already. Just find ways on how you can make regular calls without spending much for it.
- Set A Reunion
Reunions are perfect during special seasons or events in the family. Is there an upcoming birthday celebration? Are you going to celebrate Thanksgiving or Christmas? Make sure to mark these dates and ask if your child can come home for it. To ensure that he will be able to attend the gathering, it is necessary to inform your child ahead of time about it. Make the event extra special by cooking something for him.
It is essential to rehearse how you will contact family and what you will start the conversation with. — Jodi Klugman-Rabb LMFT
Keeping a close relationship with your child is still possible even if you are already miles away. It may be difficult at first, but as time goes by, you will get used to it. The most important thing to remember in cases of familial long distance relationship is to respect each other. Do not quickly get offended if your child could not answer your call or reply to your message. Instead, find some consolation in knowing that he might be busy achieving his dreams or making things happen.